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Episode 008 · Sex-Ed

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virginity is made up, your body’s noises are normal, and every scary conversation starts with three seconds of bravery — sex ed with the sex left in

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Nobody actually teaches you how sex works. School covers bodies, bugs and babies; the internet covers everything else, badly. The real questions go unanswered: what does it actually feel like, who puts what where, how do you say what you want, how do you say not yet? Sexologist Jordina Quain has spent over a decade giving young people the sex education they actually deserve, and she talks to Maddie about all of it: why virginity is a made-up idea you can put down (“I didn’t lose my virginity, I found my sexuality”), the mechanics nobody explains, why your body’s weird noises are normal, the three seconds of bravery that start every awkward conversation, what the SSASH survey says teens are really doing years before anyone talks to them about it, why porn becomes the teacher when adults won’t, and why shame needs to change hands. Virginity, consent, first times, talking to your partner, talking to your kids — sex ed with the sex actually left in.

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The girls asked

Can you explain the variations of sex? My school taught us that it was for making babies or because of hormones rather than framing it as a positive experiencing, a positive experience for learning, building confidence, and exploring.
How do you know when you're ready and who to have sex with?

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